What your Job Says About Your Dating Style

As a 20-something navigating the dating world in San Francisco, it’s hard to escape the omnipresence of the tech industry. Whether you’re swiping through dating apps or meeting someone at a bar, chances are you’ll come across a fair share of people in tech jobs and a handful of other common career choices. But have you ever wondered what their job says about their dating style? Look no further, because we’re decoding the tech job stereotypes in San Francisco’s dating scene.

The Software Engineer (SWE)

They’re the bread and butter of the tech industry and also tend to be the most introverted. Whether you’re at a climbing gym or at the newest hip bar, these are the people keeping the tabs high and the awkwardness flowing. Expect a lot of quiet dates, thoughtful conversations, and probably some light geeking out over tech topics. They might not be the most outgoing, but once they open up, they can be surprisingly romantic. Pairs well with other SWEs or a more domineering archetype. 

Product Manager

They’re the ones who oversee the development of tech products and often have a strong sense of vision and direction. In dating, this translates to someone who’s goal-oriented, organized, and probably has a clear idea of what they want in a partner. They’ll likely plan out your dates with precision, but don’t be afraid to suggest something spontaneous once in a while. Versatile in compatibility – likely the offspring of a SWE and a tech bro. 

Tech Sales 

Always. Be. Closing. You know the type – the tech salesperson is always the life of the party. They’re charming, charismatic, and always know how to make people feel comfortable. They’re great at small talk and have a way of making everyone feel like they’re the most important person in the room. They know how to sell themselves and their ideas, so you can bet that they’ll be great at selling you on the idea of a second date. Beware, however, that they may be the most likely to lead you to the infamous Situationship… Pairs well with a recruiter. 

Start-up Founder 

They’re often seen as ambitious, charismatic, and sometimes a little bit arrogant. In dating, this can translate to someone who’s a bit of a risk-taker and likes to live life to the fullest. They might not have a ton of free time, but when they do, expect a lavish date with lots of excitement and adventure. While you may not be able to tell if that twinkle in their eye is genuine interest or a hint of psychopathy, much like their funding runway, it’ll be a fun short but fun ride. Compatible with cougars and and sugar daddys. 

Investment Banker/Finance

You’ve got a little powdered sugar on your nose – wait…

If you’re dating an investment banker, you can expect a meticulously planned date. They are organized, detail-oriented, and love to be in control. While you may hear the word “value” tossed around a little more than you’d like, they’ll likely have every minute of your date scheduled out and might even send you an itinerary beforehand. Don’t worry, though, they’ll make sure you have a great time, they don’t mess around with the ROI on their schedule. Compatible with other bankers and SWEs. 


Recruiters are always on the lookout for the perfect candidate, and that applies to their love life too. While often clowned in the meme world of dating as graduated sorority girls, they’re great at networking and love connecting people. You can bet they’ll be trying to set you up with their friends even if your espresso martini date falls flat. They’re also great at reading people, so they’ll know right away that when you say you’re ready to settle, it’s cap. Pairs well with most any career. 

Non-Tech Job (the Unicorn)

Of course, not everyone in San Francisco works in tech or finance. People who work in non-tech jobs come from a wide range of professions, from teaching and hospitality to the arts and public service. While it’s difficult to generalize about a group this diverse, people who work in non-tech jobs tend to be passionate about their work and interested in making a difference in the world. They may also have more flexible schedules or work-life balance, which can make it easier to prioritize dating and relationships. If you’re interested in someone outside of tech, you can always lean on their generally accepted hatred of tech as a fall back if the conversation runs dry. 

Of course, these are all just generalizations and everyone is unique in their own way. But hopefully, this guide gives you a humorous insight into what your date’s tech job might say about their dating style. Just remember, the most important thing is to be yourself and have fun – whether you’re a software engineer or a startup founder.

So the next time you’re swiping through profiles or meeting someone at a bar, take note of their tech job and see if it matches up with these stereotypes. Who knows, maybe you’ll find a perfect match based on their job alone. But if not, at least you’ll have some good stories to tell your roommates over brunch in the Mission.

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