When it’s right, it will be easy.
This is something I’ve heard since I was a child. It never really made sense to me – everything in life worth having takes work right?
Yes, a lot of work.
It takes work, but it shouldn’t file down your will.
As an adult, I see the the sentiment now. Oftentimes, we confuse the thrill of the chase with the feeling of love. Both can leave us feeling absolutely enthralled, perplexed, enamored, obsessed. However, there are two sides to the coin.
In tis post, I want to talk through my experiences and what I’ve learned when navigating this ambiguity. These are some of the factors to consider when figuring out if a relationship with someone is right for you.
Natural Flow and Compatibility
One of the clearest signs that a relationship is right for you is the natural flow and compatibility you experience with your partner. When you’re compatible, conversation flows effortlessly, and you find yourselves on the same wavelength. You feel comfortable being your authentic self around them, and they do the same. There’s a sense of ease and comfort in your interactions, and it feels effortless to connect with each other.
Mutual Understanding and Support
In a healthy and compatible relationship, you’ll find that there is a mutual understanding and support between you and your partner. You genuinely care about each other’s well-being and provide emotional support during challenging times. There is a willingness to listen, understand, and be there for one another. This shared understanding creates a sense of ease and makes navigating difficulties together feel natural.
Shared Values and Goals
When you’re in a relationship that’s right for you, you’ll discover that you and your partner share similar values and goals. You’re aligned in your visions for the future and have a mutual understanding of what you both want out of the relationship. This alignment brings a sense of ease and confidence in building a future together, as you’re on the same page and can support each other’s aspirations.
Minimal Drama and Conflict
While no relationship is entirely free of conflict, a healthy and compatible partnership will have minimal drama and conflicts that are resolved in a respectful and constructive manner. When it’s right, you’ll notice that the disagreements you have are handled with open communication, empathy, and a willingness to find solutions together. The relationship feels balanced, and you’re able to navigate challenges without excessive drama or constant turmoil.
Emotional and Physical Well-being
Being in the right relationship should contribute positively to your emotional and physical well-being. Your partner should uplift you, inspire you, and bring out the best in you. They should make you feel loved, supported, and appreciated. Being together should enhance your overall happiness and fulfillment, rather than drain your energy or leave you feeling emotionally exhausted.
Trust and Respect
Trust and respect are fundamental pillars of a healthy relationship. When it’s right, you’ll feel a deep sense of trust in your partner, knowing that they have your best interests at heart. You’ll respect each other’s boundaries, values, and individuality. This foundation of trust and respect creates an environment where you can be vulnerable and open with one another, fostering a deeper connection.
Intuitive Gut Feeling
Sometimes, you can’t quite put your finger on why a relationship feels right, but your gut instinct tells you it is. Trust your intuition. If deep down, you have a sense of peace and contentment when you’re with your partner, it’s likely a sign that you’re on the right path. Your intuition can often provide valuable insights that go beyond logical reasoning.
It’s important to note that while ease and compatibility are crucial, relationships still require effort and commitment to thrive. However, when you’re with the right person, that effort feels natural, and the relationship brings you joy and fulfillment.
Remember, every relationship is unique, and what works for one person may vary for another. Trust your instincts and take the time to reflect on what feels right for you. Relationships are a journey of self-discovery and growth, and it’s okay to feel confused at times.
When it’s right, it will be easy. A relationship that aligns with your values, brings out the best in you, and feels effortless is worth pursuing. Trust yourself, communicate openly with your partner, and embrace the journey of love and connection.